In sixth grade, I started middle school. All the adults in my life told me not to worry about it. They said: “You’ll enjoy the …
LESSONS: The Book
Seventh Grade: How to Destroy Your Promising Career in Politics
As soon as I learned that my middle school had a student government, I knew that I would run for office. I had been told …
Eighth Grade: How to Interrogate your Whiteness (when you’re young and white and no one’s asking you to, even though they should)
Mr. B was one of my all-time great teachers. He taught seventh grade U.S. history. His class was a parade of fun, fascinating projects. That …
Freshman: How to Break THE RULES
The Rules began in prayer. I wasn’t a very religious kid, at least not in the traditional sense. Mom and I were a certain kind …
Summer: How to Lose Sixty Pounds (and why you might miss them)
Remember, I was fat. And I was totally fine with that. After the Doughboy, I kept finding ways to own, and even to enjoy, my …
Sophomore: How to Live Through History
I’ve been writing these essays throughout 2020 and 2021. If you were a kid of any age during that time, you probably heard this a …
Junior: How to Dance
At my high school, junior year was mythic. In a bad way. Seniors warned that junior year might break us, with its avalanche of AP …
Senior: How to See Highs and Lows
On December 11, 2003, I got into Harvard. Maybe you’re impressed, maybe you’re groaning. Either reaction is fine with me. Harvard both is and is …
Lessons: Epilogue
There will be higher highs and lower lows than this. Fourteen years after Ms. P says this, I sit at my desk in the Principal’s …